Lockdown reflection

Good day to you my lockdown lovelies,

Firstly, I sincerely apologise for my lack of posts in the last six months, I know – can you believe itโ€™s been six months already – we are already into Autumn of 2020.

I just felt what with all of the devastation the pandemic has caused (and still causing sadly), it was insensitive to be writing about Fashion or lifestyle when letโ€™s face it, if you are like me youโ€™ve lived in shorts, t shirts and a messy bun whilst working from home all summer anyway.

But, I can assure you I have not forgotten about my lovely readers and I have genuinely missed bringing you all thought provoking content each month. I sincerely hope you and your families are keeping safe and well in these troubling times.

For this months post though I wanted to open up the floor to you. What has been the biggest challenges for you during these last few months? Has it been not being able to visit elderly grandparents or relatives, parents or siblings? Has it been getting all the way to the supermarket, only to realise you left your face covering at home? Overuse of hand sanitiser or face coverings leaving your faces and hands bruised and chapped? Has it been the daily pandemic update on the news causing you worry or stress? Or was it, trying to think of creative ways to entertain your children whilst we were all forced to stay at home? Perhaps it was all of the above?

I can completely understand why there has been a huge spike in individuals suffering with their mental health or feeling worried about how to keep their loved ones safe? But in all of this, one really positive side I have seen is how some of the best side of humanity has also been shown. The sheer scale of people donating home made face shields, the amount of money raised by everyday people in support and the clap for the NHS on a Thursday evening was an incredible, albeit small part of the display.

Have you thought about what little things you can do to make yourself feel good in these times though? We have recently moved into a new home in the rural countryside and for me, my simple pleasures have been going for a jog around the country lanes or at the weekend putting on a little mascara or a pair of jeans just to make it feel a little different from every other day!

Your health inside and out depends on these daily little acts of kindness to YOU! Giving yourself that pamper night – painting your nails or relaxing in a hot, Himalayan salt bath, calling your best friend to have a catch up about normal things or even having a great, big belly laugh at a silly movie curled up under a blanket with some popcorn. Try it, you will be amazed at how you feel ๐Ÿ˜Š

Until next time, keep well and stay healthy.

Keya x

Balance is not just walking in stilettos.

Good morning to you my joyful jugglers of life,

I am sure if you are anything like me, from a young age it was drummed into you in magazines or on the television that you can be a woman who has it all – a high flying career, a beautiful family, a successful social life and for there to even be time to fit in an exercise class or two for good measure; I grew up wanting to be that kind of woman. For this months post however, I wanted to talk about Balance.

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(All pictures courtesy of Google images)

As a woman of 32, I currently have a career that I receive a huge sense of satisfaction from although I feel is still in its earliest throes of progression. I have a wonderful handful of true girl friends who I have grown up and evolved with. The main difference now being our wild nights together consist of sharing a bottle of wine whilst putting the world to rights over a nice meal instead of coming home at 5am in last nights party frock. I have an amazing family who support me through the best, the worst and every other period in-between who mean the world to me. And last but certainly not least, I have a partner in my life who supports me in every challenge I face, who is my rock and makes me laugh and feel loved in a way that I did not even know was possible until now. And to top it off, after receiving my Spinning Instructor certification back in 2016, I also ensure I get some exercise classes thrown in each week too with me on the microphone ๐Ÿ™‚

With all the positive elements of my life though, I too fall into the trap of not knowing how to juggle all of these things successfully at times. Are you nodding your head whilst reading this – its OK if you are! haha.

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I often wonder to myself if one day we are unable to keep all of these proverbial balls in the air and one drops, what will actually HAPPEN? If we realize that we accidentally double booked a dinner date with a friend on the same day we already said we would go to visit your partners family – will we lose that friendship or cause an argument? The answer is usually no, but why do we put so much pressure on ourselves to appear to the outside world we have it all in order? And in all honesty if that was the outcome which came from those situations, the next question you would need to ask yourself is are you surrounding yourself with the right kind of people who deserve your love and time? Now that is a hard question to ask yourself believe me but sometimes the answer is so enlightening and empowering ๐Ÿ™‚

Another trait of women statistically is we usually would not put ourselves forward for a new role at work unless we felt 100 percent certain we could carry out all of the tasks required whereas men tend to be more confident that they can learn the required responsibilities once already employed in the job. Why do we sometimes doubt our capabilities when we know that we are just as right for that role as our male counterpart? It all comes down to having self Confidence and Esteem. I have learnt only in the last few years that I AM good enough and even know you may not have the necessary experience in a particular industry, it will translate to another in many circumstances. Finding those commonalities will mean the sky really is the limit for you.

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I will wholeheartedly raise my hands and say that I am a perfectionist in all areas of my life and I genuinely feel like super woman when I have managed to do a days work, taught an energetic spin class, cooked a healthy dinner, put a load of washing on and still managed to enjoy a relaxing glass of wine with my loved one before bedtime – but realistically not every day is like that. Some days, my only achievement is moving from my bed to the sofa and back again but with each passing year I have learnt that doing nothing is OK too.

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Which brings me perfectly to the very subject of this post – Balance. Life will always inevitably get stressful, activity filled and chaotic which will only increase when children are thrown into the mix but as my wise parents often remind me Rome wasn’t built in a day and if you cant get all your washing done today – we have another 60 years hopefully of doing it so it really does not matter. Or if you realize with a heavy heart you haven’t seen your best friends for a month, just pick up the phone and give them a call – sometimes just hearing your voice and letting them know you are thinking about them is enough until you next can see each other for a catch up.

Life can be tough enough at times, so why add that additional pressure on yourself to try to do everything all of the time – kick back, relax and go for that impromptu dinner date or picnic in the park. The routine can wait until tomorrow ๐Ÿ™‚

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Until next time, take care

Keya x

 

Moving isn’t always easy

Good morning my travel companions,

I am so sorry for my delay in posting this fortnight, I have had such a hectic transition period as some of you may already know I have just moved to Australia from London. For this weeks post I wanted to document my decision to move and how the process has been for me so far.  

Just over a year ago, I was on a night out in Shoreditch celebrating completing the London triathlon when across the bar my eyes met with a tall, dark, handsome stranger and I felt butterflies in my stomach. We chatted and danced all night and the rest they say is history. In the time we have been together we have been to music festivals, out for dinner in amazing restaurants, spent Christmas together with my family and I also got to meet his entire family whilst on a holiday to his home country of Australia. 


When we discussed the possibility of me moving to Australia to start a new chapter in my life, of course at first I was petrified. It would mean giving up my job, my car, my life as I knew it and moving to the other side of the world away from my wonderful family and friends but after careful consideration I knew I had to do it. 

I am sure we all have felt that pit of dread inside at one time or another when we feel as though things have got comfortable. I was at a point where although I loved my job and had been happily employed with my company for over six years, I knew my role inside out and was not feeling challenged anymore. Outside of work my weeks were filled with catching up with friends, doing my various sporting activities and spending time with my family whilst saving for a deposit. I soon realised that we all have our own lives though, and weeks or months can go by before you realised – oh sugar you haven’t responded to that email or whatsapp message. 

Ultimately my decision was spurred on by the sheer excitement of the unknown so after a stressful last few months organising shipping, selling my belongings and seeing everyone I packed my suitcases and embarked on my new adventure. 

I am now two weeks in and although I have had times where I am utterly confused about job recruitment agency processes or even just trying to figure out the new currency I can safely say I am so pleased I made this leap. 

As individuals it is so important to always be striving to be the best version of ourselves we can be. Complacency is a virtue, to live your life with regrets is not a way to live full stop. Surely you would sleep soundly at night knowing that you took that step, gave it your all and then if it still wasn’t for you, you can go back to your old self with relative ease. 

So whether you are unsure about taking up those self protection karate classes, quitting your job and starting your own business or even just asking for a well deserved promotion my advice would always be – just GO for it, what do you have to lose. We can always make more money or obtain more material things, but experiences truly are priceless. 

Until next time, take care

Keya X