Social media – help or hindrance to our own true happiness?

Good evening to you my enthusiastic e-readers,

For this months post, I really wanted to dig deeper into the evolution of social media and to try to fathom if the backlash towards its exaggerated ideal of perfection is warranted.

(All images courtesy of google images)

I myself was rather a late bloomer when it came to signing up to social media. During my early twenties, I was lucky enough to live overseas in Spain for my summer holiday during college and although friends back home were cottoning on, I still was too busy making memories in the real world to think about setting up a page.

It was only after moving back home to my parents after a particularly tough breakup and finding myself with a significantly reduced group of friends that I took the plunge and set up a Facebook account. Within a few weeks, one of my first ever friends from school had reached out to me and we had rekindled an amazing friendship which nearly 22 years later still is stronger than ever. I owe that to Facebook and it’s amazing power of connecting people for sure.

Over the years of working and living in multiple countries which has been an adventure I cherish forever, Facebook and Instagram really has made the world seem so much smaller. Seeing friends celebrating massive achievements like getting married, earning a promotion or having children fills me with so much joy as if it wasn’t for these platforms it would make it so much harder to keep in touch.

But like everything we do, there are of course negative outcomes of living our lives online. If you ask yourself honestly, the last concert or music festival you went to – how many photos, videos, selfies or check in’s did you do? Haha it’s ok I know it’s scary to admit but we ALL are guilty of recording our favourite song in a live show or tagging ourselves with our friends in front of the stage. It’s as if to prove we were really there. I often wonder however, by doing this, are we actually missing the true magic of the experience by watching it through our smartphone screens instead of just using our own eyes?

Another thing that I definitely am guilty of as I am sure we all do, is I tend to only put up a post when I am doing something fun or interesting – whether it being celebrating a friends birthday, seeing my favourite DJ or going “out out”. Honestly who would want to hear about how I’ve just washed my hair or put on a face mask – we try to show the “perfect” side of our lives in the hope of appearing more popular, fun, sociable or just plain cool. I admit that sometimes when I’m scrolling through Instagram and I see these flawless people with amazing bodies, heaps of friends and jetting off all the time to luxurious destinations I do get a pang of jealousy. I think for me though, I just always think back to the notion of we all are portraying our best selves and we should be supporting not criticising each other in this world – there is enough sadness around us already.

Ultimately for me, I have my real life, my real family and friends who know and love ME for who I am and I also then have my incredible social media network which has opened up my eyes to all of you, my lovely followers and has forged some lasting connections for me because of it. There are pros and cons to everything we do in our lives, whether it be the food we eat, the clothes we wear and the life choices we make but as long as we approach the Internet with the respect and integrity it deserves then carry on connecting people and stay HAPPY!

Until next time,

Take care

Keya x

The green eyed monster

Happy Friday to my wonderful followers, 

I realise I am breaking the norm with a second post this week but I feel like the topic that has been playing on my mind over the last few days is an important one. 

I am so torn about my feelings towards social media and technology. On the one hand, I think it’s an ingenious way of keeping in touch with friends and family around the world and also I wouldn’t be able to bring my blog to you every week if it wasn’t for the Internet, but on the other it can be so alienating. Aimlessly flicking through Facebook or Instagram in a spare 5 minutes during the day can make you feel not thin, successful or fashionable enough – as though other people’s lives seem so much more interesting than your own. It can make you seem so small and insignificant against our peers, as though our handful of “real” friends can not compare to those with a million followers online. 

The thing is with social media, it really is the best version of people’s lives you are seeing on your newsfeed – we aren’t interested in pictures of us sans makeup in a onesie doing the school run or the daily commute to your 9-5, we only post pictures of that marathon we completed, that amazing restaurant we visited or those new Louboutins we just had to buy which are what bring in the followers or likes. It is like a virtual form of acceptance when you see someone’s nice comment or smiley face emoticon flash up on your smart phone. 

We all are guilty of posting beautiful pictures of wish you were here holiday locations or that new must have Chanel bag we secretly saved for a year to buy because that is what is deemed cool by our tech savvy generation. 

I think for me, I just had a realisation today whilst talking to one of my closest friends that it is so easy to feel a sense of jealousy or resentment towards what we are subjected to online. I know now though that although I may not have super model long legs or own the most expensive collection of Birkin bags, I AM successful in my own right and I feel so lucky to have the most amazing support network of family and friends around me which truly is priceless.
Let me ask you this – when was the last time you asked your partner, best friend or colleague what they think is your best quality? We feel that we are defined but what we look like, the car we drive or if we are a home or business owner but I can guarantee their answer will be your radiant smile, your compassion towards others who are less fortunate, your business ethics or your ability to give the best hugs that they will treasure having you in their lives for.

As a working nearly 30 year old woman, I really feel like the world is my oyster. Like all of us, I feel insecure sometimes or as though I can’t do things but you just have to close your eyes and tell yourself you CAN – you will never regret trying and not succeeding, instead of not trying at all. 
Be the best version of YOU 😀

  Until next week, take care
Keya X