New Year, not New You.

Good day to you my raring to go readers,

I hope you all had an amazing Christmas break with your families and a very Happy New Year. As always, I would love to thank you for taking the time to subscribe and read these posts each month and welcome to the newย  joiners, your support is greatly appreciated and I am so grateful to have this platform to explore my creative writing with each blog.

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With the emergence of the new decade upon us, I have been thinking a lot about the notion of setting New Years resolutions. I am not sure about you but I find that each year a small sense of doom overcomes me as the last few days of December pass by, at the thought of making a resolution that I can actually stick to and not sabotage by the end of January (the usual things like giving up chocolate – I mean really, I had no chance) or not being such a sucker when it comes to a fashion bargain.ย  Its just not a nice feeling that you have failed at something already in the first month of the New Year.

I am sure you have seen on social media and on advertising campaigns, the slogan ‘New Year, New Me’ with companies promising their new wonder products can help you reach that dress size you have always dreamed of or have that glossy, shiny hair that we see on models in magazines but all that crosses my mind is, should there be a new me – what is so fundamentally wrong with the version that was left behind in 2019?

I wholeheartedly agree that if you have your heart set on perhaps quitting smoking or to get out in the great outdoors and lead a healthier lifestyle then that is a great goal to set yourself and sometimes we need a milestone like the 1st of January to break old habits but it pains me to think that people will be feeling really rubbish about themselves if they have a little slip up. Life is genuinely challenging enough, try not to put that added pressure on yourself also!

So personally this year, I have set myself a new goal NOT a resolution for 2020 and that is to just BE PRESENT. By this I mean, as adults we are always subconsciously worrying about or making plans for what is to come in the future or regrets from the past, we tend to lose sight of what is in front of us right now, being in the moment. We forget to take a second to revel in the sights, sounds, colours and variety in the world around us and that is a very sad thing to think of in my opinion.

Whatever New Years aspirations you have set in your own lives for 2020, just remember that we only get one life, so make memories, spend time with loved ones and friends, travel to those bucket list destinations or invest in that statement winter coat – just LIVE it to the fullest.

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Until next time, take care

Keya x

 

 

 

 

New Year, not new YOU.

Firstly welcome to 2019 and I hope you all had an amazing festive break with your loved ones. I hope you are all feeling rested, revived and ready to tackle the New Year ahead.

I have been procrastinating for days now about writing this post because the subject matter genuinely scares the life out of me, but alas if we cannot reveal our own flaws as human beings how can we be compassionate of others?

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As those close to me would know, I have spent the last six months in talking therapy for a cleanliness OCD and also to deal with internal battles from bullying and an eating disorder when I was a teenager at school. In all honesty 2018 was the toughest year I have ever faced and although there were many high moments (the most prominent being when I met the love of my life) the lows were crippling, not just for me but my support network also.

I had been the way I was for so long, that I just thought it was part of my personality -just ME. Sometimes however, it takes a defining moment or catalyst to finally say those magic words – I need help and that happened for me in the early part of last year. Once I had taken that first step however, being assigned a therapist was a lot less painstaking then I imagined, and as soon as I met mine for the first time the floodgates opened and it felt amazing to finally talk to an impartial person about my childhood and how it shaped me into the person I had become.

I know this post is not in my usual style of writing if you have been a subscriber since the beginning, but in reality, life is not all sunshine and rainbows. I also cannot sing the praises enough of the Waltham Forest Talking therapies group through the NHS as they ultimately have changed my life forever.

Approaching the end of 2018, equipped with new lessons, tools and a belief in myself for the first time made seeing in the New Year with my amazing partners family in Sunderland even more poignant for me. This was the first year in as long as I can remember, it felt right to not set a New Years resolution. I knew that I wanted to go into 2019 using my new techniques and assertiveness skills to know that I AM good enough, I have a voice and being open and honest is ALWAYS the best policy.

This has been my own personal journey but the message I would like to leave with you all is that it is OK to ask for help, it’s OK to be open about working on your own mental health, it’s OK to not have your shit together, and finally it’s OK to be selfish and say to your loved ones I need time for ME.

Whatever challenges or hardships you have faced in 2018, I wish that 2019 is a year of growth, lessons learnt put into practise, transparency with those who you love most and ultimately just living the best version of you, you can be.

I cannot wait for all of the new content, research and most of all providing thought provoking posts for you regularly this year.

Until next time, don’t worry be happy ๐Ÿ˜Š

Take care

Keya x

Happy new year and new you ๐Ÿ˜€

Good day to you my 2017 heroes,

I must apologise profusely for my radio silence for the last month. What with moving into my first apartment in Brisbane and the Christmas/New Year period I have been so busy and just not had a moment to sit down and put pen to proverbial paper as they say. I hope the festive period was wonderful for you and your families and you are ready and raring to begin 2017 with gusto. 

I have had the most wonderful few months. In what felt like a true whirlwind, we decided that we were ready to start looking for a place to call our own and literally the second new apartment block we looked at, we found the perfect place to call our first home together here. Boy, I was like a kid in a candy store when we went furniture shopping – picking out our bed, sofa and all the bits in between. It feel so much more exciting knowing it is for YOUR place, so you really can let your passion for interior design run free. We went with a neutral colour scheme  with flashes of teal and grey which really complimented the white backdrop perfectly.


Before we knew it the Christmas period was nearly upon us and we were then thrust into the frenzy of gift purchasing and finishing our last few days at work before the holidays. Christmas Eve was spent with my partners family and although the weather was so humid and the sun was beaming, it still felt Christmassy pulling crackers and eating roast turkey with stuffing.

The rest of our vacation was spent by our buildings pool, lazy days watching movies and lounging on Queenslands finest beaches. 


No matter what we did to fill our days however, the most important thing for me which truly is priceless was getting to spend quality time with my love and his family. Although I truly missed my own family back home in London more so then I do every day, I know that home really is where the heart is and mine is always with them. 

So whether your New Years resolution this year was the same as every year previously, or one that could only be more pressing for 2017, just remember that life really is for living, no bad decision can be regretted more than not making one at all and if we have positive, happy people around us that is worth more than any fortune you can earn in a lifetime in my opinion. 

With love and enthusiasm for what I plan to bring to my avid followers in this New Year, until next time take care, 

Keya x